Dear Ms. Feverfew –
“Bilbo was sadly reflecting that adventures are not all pony-rides in May-sunshine.”
Bilbo was one smart hobbit. I wonder if he knew an adoptee or natural parent or two.
Most (though gratefully, not all) adoptive parents think adoption is a wonderful thing, full of happiness, joy, and blessings for all involved. Few take the time to acknowledge that there is a tremendous amount of pain & heart ache involved for the other people in the adoption equation – people like me. People like you. Some do and for them I am eternally grateful. Most don’t.
And they are the ones who help perpetuate the myth that adoption is all “pony-rides in May-sunshine.”
I don’t know your adoptive parents well enough to know if they are wise like Bilbo or not. Hopefully for your sake they have figured it out.