Dear Ms. Feverfew –
I have come to the firm conclusion that since you are an adult and I am an adult that we – you and I – can strike up a relationship on our own terms without needing to go through your aparents. Eventually, I think I will send you a message via your FB account, a simple “I am here for you when you are ready, willing to answer your questions (even the hard ones), & this is where you can find me” kind of message. Just something to let you know that you will find no closed doors when you are finally ready to learn about your Chapter One.
Now I just have to figure out the timing of it all. You just started your first semester of college. Do I wait until half way through the semester to send the message? Or will that totally disrupt your mid-term exams? Do I wait until a few weeks after mid-terms? That will put it closer to Thanksgiving – will that screw up your holidays? How about when you get back from Thanksgiving? Or is that too close to finals? How about the beginning of the semester in January? Or will that totally screw up that semester? Do I wait until Spring Break? Next summer? After graduation in four years?
Hmm…I have a feeling that from an adopted person’s perspective, there is no “perfect time” to get one of those kinds of messages. Just a “before” and an “after.”