Ah, The Logic of 6-year Old


Dear Ms. Feverfew –

So tonight at dinner time, I told the Professor about you. He said, “Do I have another brother too?”

“No, just an older sister who lives with another family.”

“Oh. Can I have some more chicken?”

I am sure he will have more questions later, but all in all, I think things went rather well, don’t you?

Love,

M.

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4 thoughts on “Ah, The Logic of 6-year Old

    • 🙂 It’s nice that both of the boys know now. I figured if I told him in a more casual setting over a normal family dinner, it wouldn’t feel like it was a big, scary, thing that mommy had to pull him aside for. It was “just” part of our dinner conversation. Like I said, I am sure he will have questions but just as I told my older son when he was the Professors age, I am always willing to talk about it with them and answer any questions they might have, even the hard ones.

      M.

  1. It’s bittersweet being able to talk to your children about a child that you didn’t raise. When my youngest son started getting it more asked me did I get any money for her and when I said no. Do you think I should have and he said, ya, she was your baby.

    • (((Hugs))). My older son has started asking a lot of questions lately about her. I think it is driven in part by the fact he has another sister who was adopted (his dad and his step-mother adopted an infant girl about 6 years ago). I guess they send her first mother pictures/letters once a year and her first mother can call “once a year, but I guess she is always too busy to call.” I told him that no, she isn’t too busy, she is mostly likely in too much pain and hurts a lot, just like I do. It gave us an opening to have a pretty frank discussion about the reality of adoption from the other side. Then he asked me, “So if her first mom has other kids like you, does that mean I am their big brother too? Because if she is my sister, then…???”

      *sigh.* Adoption is so freakin’ messy.

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