When the story of Brandon Davies’ (an adoptee, btw) violation of the BYU honor code first broke, I knew it was because he had gotten someone pregnant. Come on folks, let us all stop lying to each other and just deal with reality. Any of us who grew up in the shadow of those ever lasting hills has to be truthful and acknowledge the only reason any of those athletes get publicly admonished for honor code violations is if they do something that BYU can’t cover up. Jayci Stephen’s swelling belly is something they can’t hide. Even when rumors where swirling around that he had been suspended because of other reasons, I knew in my heart it was because someone was pregnant with his baby.
Since Jayci is LDS (linky to her FB page where she states this), there was never any doubt in my mind of the outcome of the situation. Never. Her only choice would be adoption. If not at birth, then people would continue to tell her, “It’s never too late to do the right thing” until she finally caved and gave in to societal and parental pressure. While parenting might be given lip service by the social workers at LDSFS and by church leaders, tremendous amounts of pressure is placed on a single expectant parent to “do the heroic, and right thing” and “make an adoption plan.” After all, that’s what good mothers do. Good mothers let other people raise their baby. Good mothers never parent on their own.
How do I know this is what she is being told?
Because it is my story. It is our story.
Naturally, she selected a very white family to raise her mixed-race baby. Naturally, they will be there in the delivery room with her when the baby is born.
And naturally, the LDSFS adoption community is swooning over this latest “miracle and blessing.” So get ready folks for the blog of another LDS birth mommy who is simply overjoyed to be the vessel carrying someone other woman’s baby to hit the ‘net.
It should prove to be an entertaining ride.