Utah Mutual Consent Adoption Registry


Dear Ms. Feverfew –

Did you know that since 1987, Utah has an active mutual consent adoption registry? This means if both you and I fill out the forms, send in our birth certificates, and $25, they will share identifying information with each other AND release your adoption records, including your original birth certificate?  Not just for me and you, but if your brothers and sisters want to register, they can as well. Did I mention it has been around since NINETEEN EIGHTY SEVEN?

I know it isn’t perfect by any means, but why haven’t I known about this before? Don’t you think that SOMEONE (ahem, STUPID LDSFS PEOPLE) should have mentioned this little, teeny, tiny tidbit of information to me? Don’t you think SOMEONE should have printed out the forms and said, “Hey – why don’t you fill these out so your daughter can get her original birth certificate?” Oh, that’s right. Because then they would have had to explain sealed records, falsified birth certificates and all that jazz.

1987, people – 19freakin87.  I wonder how many other first mothers who relinquished in Utah know about this registry and have actually registered.  Or how many were just as clueless as I was until about 20 minute ago? Do you know about it? Do you know that you can have access to your original birth records when you turn 21 if your mother has joined the registry? Do other adoptees know about it?  WHY NOT??????

At first I wasn’t going to register – we already know each others name and contact information, why spend the $25 and go through the hassle? I have a copy of your original birth certificate, which I have always planned on giving to you – especially since the tightened security rules will make it nearly impossible for you to get a passport without it. But then the thought went through my mind: Ms. Feverfew needs to have access to it, on her own, independent of me. Just like I am able to do, you need to be able to fill out a form and get your original birth certificate without anyone hassling you about it. It’s your right; your birth right.

So sitting in front of me right now is the form, all filled out. I just need to have it notarized and then I will send it in. 1987. This registry has been around since 1987.  There’s not much I can do to help you along the path you are walking, but this? This I can do.

Much love,

M.

P.S. Edited to add this: I just spoke with an amazing mama who relinquished her baby for adoption in Utah through LDSFS within the last year or so. She has never heard of the Utah Mutual Consent Adoption Registry or the fact that her child can gain access to their original birth certificate ONLY if she registers. Huh. I thought adoption was so “different” nowadays than it was “way back when.” I guess the more things change, the more they stay the same. Babies still loose their mamas, mamas still lose their babies, and no one tells the mothers or the adoptees about being able to access the adoption records or OBC.

IF YOU ARE AN FIRST PARENT OR ADOPTEE FROM UTAH, HERE IS THE PDF FORM . FILL IT OUT AND SEND IT IN. TODAY.

Utah_Adoption_Registry

(Moms – Even if you have a copy of the original birth certificate and the adoptive couple has a copy of the original birth certificate and you put one in a time capsule, YOUR CHILD HAS THE RIGHT TO ACCESS THAT BIRTH CERTIFICATE INDEPENDENT OF YOU OR HER ADOPTIVE PARENTS.  Yes, the physical piece of paper that is an OBC is important, but access to it is equally important, too. Do the right thing. Register today.)

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9 thoughts on “Utah Mutual Consent Adoption Registry

  1. A lot of states have these registries but NO ONE knows about them. I am going to link to you and when I talk about this one day this month.

    The scary thing for me is that some mothers who chose closed today are given forms to fill out and I think it is a denial form…cuz you know they would tell them about that…

    Excellent point about giving the power TO the adoptee.

    Great post!

    • I have been asking around all my UT adoptee friends and first moms and NO ONE has heard of this before. NO ONE. I can’t seem to find anything about a no contact veto in the Utah law or registry though. I will keep digging – I hope there isn’t one.

      I look forward to your post on the subject matter. I am certain you are already aware of the childwelfare.gov source which has all of the states’ info in one place. That is where I found out about the UT registry. http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/state/index.cfm?event=stateStatutes.processSearch

      • Perhaps Utah doesn’t have a denial form for their registry – its not a no contact veto per se. Some registries have yes or no forms parents can fill out – which they can revoke later – if they remember – but if a mother signs when she surrenders how likely is it that she will remember years later to revoke?

      • Excellent point, TAO. As many mothers don’t even remember signing papers or even have copies of them, knowing what exactly they signed at that time could be difficult.

      • I have no idea what I signed and of course no copies were provided to me.

        Do you know what is funny? Everything I have signed since then I have read in it’s entirety. That include all of the paperwork associated with purchasing two homes and a couple of refinances. (The agents were not amused.) I guess the trauma of giving away my daughter made me need to know exactly what I am signing.

        Thanks for the link. I clicked through and am finding a wealth of information. I placed in Missouri and I noticed this sentance in their state statutes:

        “For adoptions completed prior to 8-13-1986, the adoptive parents must consent to contacting the birth parents unless there is proof that the adoptive parents are deceased or incapacitated.”

        What!? An adoptee in this category would be 25 years old or older! I am sorry. Even though you are 55 years old you and going to need your parents’ permisssion. Are you kidding me? My daughter was born in 1995 so this does not apply to us but seriously!!!

      • Crazy isn’t it, Starr? I have heard of some adoptees from Missouri having a treacherous time with accessing records, even worse than UT.

        And I am the exact same way about reading everything I sign, even user agreements online!

  2. Our daughter’s birth mother is deceased, can birth father’s fill it out? We have an original, but I would still want her to have access without us if need be.

    • I am sorry to hear she has passed away. 😦 But yes, the natural father can register, as can any blood siblings of the adoptee, or blood siblings of the deceased natural parent. I hope you are able to help her get access – it is so important (as I am sure you are already aware.)

      • This is fabulous that you know this now! Not surprising that it was withheld, though. You’ve inspired me to look at that laws here surrounding his OBC and registry.

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