To Mom and Dad:
This is why I had to have my name officially removed from the records of the church. God may forgive and forget, but the LDS church doesn’t. If you are a birth mother, they will use it against you for the rest of your living days. And if the sealing ordinance is to be believed, for eternity, too.
I love both of you and I know my choice to leave probably hurt you, but I could not – with any fidelity to who I am as a person – continue to have my name associated with an organization that thought so little of me and continues to fail to protect the most vulnerable members of our society.
(For more information about what happened in the Joseph Bishop case, please read this Salt Lake Tribune article by Peggy Stack , as well as the reports of how the LDS church responded. )
Hmmmm….This sounds a lot like the LDS church and the LDSFS’s treatment of single expectant mothers. It also parallels the church’s teaching that adoption “blesses” the birth parents and the child in this life and in eternity and that it should be considered a gift to all involved. Sacred, even.
Is it really a gift and blessing to be severed from your heritage, your ancestors, your people, and your mother for eternity, thanks to the sealing ordinance? Is it really a gift and blessing to be severed from your child, your future grandchildren, and your descendants for eternity? Is having your existence expunged from history, a complete and total annihilation of your motherhood – from a legal and a doctrinal point of view – really a gift?
Most of us with any heart or conscience would say no, those are not true gifts nor are they blessings.
Yet these are the gifts and blessings a Mormon god and his people give the most vulnerable of among the church, single mothers and their newborn children. She asks the Mormon god for bread, but is given a stone instead.
After all, she got herself into this mess. She can live with the consequences.